Reflections :: Owning Our Needs

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  Owning Our Needs: Lately, in my work with women, I have been very aware of a theme around our needs. Identifying needs can be very difficult.  Sociological programs are belief systems that aren't personal to us, but often are, because of what is considered acceptable or normal, we measure our self worth.  This can lead to a monotonous loss of  vitality, a feeling of numbness or stress over the daily going-ons of life, because the needs that drive and demand us aren't reflective of our true, actual, internal needs. Our needs … [Read more...]

Community :: How We Can Help the Families in Oklahoma

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  It is so upsetting to watch the news and see the damage Monday's tornado left behind in the community of Moore, Oklahoma. The Associated Press is reporting that 51 people - including at least 20 children - lost their lives yesterday.  As parents, keeping our children safe is one of our major concerns and it is events like the Newton shootings and natural disasters that makes us feel one so vulnerable to forces out of our control.  This morning I had several conversations (with myself) about whether or not I should take my … [Read more...]

Dove’s “Let’s Make Girls Unstoppable” Initiative

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A few weeks back I attended the Mom 2.0 Summit at The Ritz Carlton Hotel in Laguna Niguel.  The setting was amazing with the ocean views and salt-watered breeze, but what impressed me the most about the event was the Dove's "Let's Make Girls Unstoppable" campaign.   You might have seen the Dove commercials showcasing women of all sizes to stress the importance of women accepting themselves as they are.  Well, their Dove Self-Esteem Project aims to start teaching this important message to our young girls and will focus on self-esteem … [Read more...]

Musings :: How Becoming a Mother Changed Me

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  The journey to become a mom was not an easy one for my husband and I.  It wasn't until the 9/11 tragedy that I woke up and realized how life can be so uncertain and that not only did I want to get married (had been with my now-husband for 7 years), but I also wanted to have children.  Yes, it was 9/11 as well as a quote I read in an article that completely altered my life.  I was reading a magazine article that was written by a playwright who talked about all these experiences she had in life, traveling the world, dinners at … [Read more...]

A Mother’s Day Poem by Adrienne Rich

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I know you are reading this poem as you pace beside the stove warming milk, a crying child on your shoulder, a book in your hand because life is short and you too are thirsty. I know you are reading this poem which is not in your language guessing at some words while others keep you reading and I want to know which words they are. I know you are reading this poem listening for something, torn                 between bitterness and hope turning back once again to the task you cannot refuse. I know you are reading this … [Read more...]

Entering the World of Mom Bloggers at the Mom 2.0 Summit

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  This past weekend I attended the Mom 2.0 Summit at The Ritz Carlton in Laguna Niguel where hundreds of women bloggers were looking to connect with other women as well as with the sponsors and partners of the event such as Honda, Whirlpool, and Dove.  It was pretty amazing to be in a room full of women (and a handful of men) who were so interested to learn some tricks of the trade about how to turn their hobbies or  businesses into a more successful one.  This was my first Mom Blogger event and I really didn't know what to … [Read more...]

Giving Your Kids Your Rock Solid Support

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  We love them beyond measure. That’s a given. And no one handed us a “how to” guide or technical manual when they were born. So we tap into that unconditional love and do the best we can to raise our children to be confident, well-adjusted, and self-reliant. We do what we do so they can one day go forth to live with passion and meaning. There are many factors that will contribute to our desired outcome for our children. And some of them, we won’t be able to control. What we can do, however, is build a strong foundation of … [Read more...]

Reflections :: Concerning the Topic of Love

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  On the Topic of Love: When I was approached to write for this site it was concerning the topic of love. Not romantic love.  Rather, how to be loving.  In a practical, real-life, day after day way.  A standing in a non-moving line in the grocery store, getting cut-off on the freeway, or coming home to find out yet again that the internet is down kind-of-way. There is a fundamental ancient meditation practice from India known as Vipassana.  It teaches a person to steadily witness from within this moment. A primary principle … [Read more...]

Parenting :: Swimming the Tide of Autism

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  This spring marks two years since my son's Asperger diagnosis. His younger sister has been professionally diagnosed with Asperger's and nowhere near the spectrum. I am currently in the midst of a divorce with their father, who is a walking billboard for autistic characteristics but refuses my pleas to get evaluated. When April came celebrating Autism awareness, I felt I was already not only quite aware but drowning in a sea of autism. Somehow, I managed to swim the tides for two years unaware of many frequently vicious debates … [Read more...]